On days like today, I find myself reflecting on how the "Family Day" narrative impacts our mental health—and by extension, our focus and wellness in our professional lives.
The arrival of this holiday often brings a sense of the "in-between." The in-between is that quiet, heavy space where the reality of our lives meets the expectations of the world. It’s where grief, complex family dynamics, and the "chosen" families we’ve built for ourselves reside. If you find this day activating or difficult to navigate, I want you to know: Your experience is valid.
Redefining "Family"
At Schaefer Counselling Services, we believe family isn't just about a title or a biological connection. We define family as the people who allow your nervous system to settle and make you feel secure enough to be yourself.
This definition is vital because, for many, this holiday isn’t a simple celebration. It can involve the heavy lifting of navigating complex dynamics, honouring grief for those no longer with us, or the intentional labour of setting boundaries to protect your peace. When our "foundation" feels shaky at home, it inevitably impacts how we show up in our professional worlds—our focus, our energy, and our overall sense of wellness.
Navigating the Day with Intention
If today feels less like a celebration and more like a day to "get through," here are three ways to ground yourself:
- Listen to Your Body: If a situation feels "noisy" or tense, give yourself permission to step away. Your nervous system is a compass; honour what it is telling you.
- Release the Performance: You do not owe the world a "perfect" holiday. Authenticity is far more healing than a forced smile.
- Honour Your "Chosen" Connections: Celebrate the people who see you clearly, hold you securely, and make you feel "at home" in your own skin.|
A Seat for Every Story
Whether you are celebrating with relatives, honouring a chosen family, or finding quiet strength in your own company, please be gentle with yourself today.
At Schaefer Counselling Services, my goal is to provide a sanctuary where every part of you is welcome. My office is a space where we don't just talk about the families we have; we talk about the humans we are becoming within them.
If today feels heavy, please remember you don’t have to navigate it alone. My door is open for you this week—reach out when you're ready.
—Annika
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